Speaking Up Is Important — But How You Say It Matters Even More
9/12/2025
Last month, we talked about the importance of speaking up and sharing your true perspective. Let’s take it a step further today.
Yes — voicing your opinion is critical for progress. But there’s a big caveat that too many people overlook: the way you deliver your message can make or break its impact.
Words are like a jar’s seal
Think about a sealed jar. Once that seal is broken, it can never be exactly the same again. Words work the same way.
The moment you choose to speak, the tone, choice of words, and delivery style create an imprint that can’t easily be undone. A sharp comment or a disrespectful tone can leave a lasting crack in a relationship — even if your point was valid.
In fact, disrespectful communication can do more than just derail one conversation. It can erode trust over time, creating a ripple effect:
People start avoiding honest dialogue.
Meetings become less productive.
Eventually, communication slows to a crawl — or stops altogether.
Respect isn’t optional — it’s essential
It’s not enough to just encourage people to speak up. We also need to help them learn how to do it in a way that builds, rather than breaks, trust.
Here are a few ways to ensure your words strengthen instead of damage:
Pause before you speak. Ask: Will this comment move us forward or shut people down?
Focus on the issue, not the person. Separate facts from emotions and avoid personal attacks.
Use “I” statements. Share your own experience rather than placing blame.
Stay curious. Listen as much as (or more than) you talk.
The real goal: strong voices, stronger relationships
When people feel safe to speak up and know they’ll be heard with respect, amazing things happen. Innovation soars. Trust deepens. Teams become unstoppable.
Next time you’re ready to break that “seal” and share what’s on your mind, remember: your words have power. Choose them wisely — and watch how they transform not just the conversation, but the entire culture around you.